The devil is in the details

Boys, bed, booze, and bitches

During formal rush sorority rush (at least at Duke) there are four topics that are off-limits when talking with potential members (though I never said that rule was FOLLOWED). These four things are known as "the four Bs": Boys (as in which fraternities the sorority parties with), Bed (the sexual exploits of sorority sisters), Booze (self-explanatory), and Bitches (bad-mouthing other sororities). These four topics, of course, are not off limits for sorority alumnae in blog posts. (Oh-and devil boy...these are precisely the kinds of things that I argued about with Kelly. :P)

Recent highlights in no particular order:

Bitches: I have one last bridesmaid stint coming up this year. I'm will be the maid of honor in my roommate's wedding. My roommate K (the one getting married) is wonderful and very laid-back and not a problem at all. A couple of her plans aren't 100% traditional (a relatively short engagement, having the wedding in the groom's nearby hometown instead of her halfway across the country hometown and not going to her hometown at all since she's been engaged) but they are all certainly reasonable. After all, it's her wedding. At the moment, there are only two other bridesmaids-one is our other roommate R., and the other is a friend from home. The thing is-thanks to some of the less-traditional decisions that she has made, the shower planning is not going entirely smoothly. I have already had a major battle with the girl from home(read: an email calling me mean, insensitive and a bitch and telling me that I don't understand weddings or pre-wedding planning), and I am now in contact with both bridesmaids, the groom's mother, and the bride's mother daily to try to pull together a surprise shower that will be two days before the wedding. We are currently on our fourth different plan, which is almost exactly my original plan. This may be entirely typical, but since it is the first time that I have to take the lead in organizing a shower, it seems insane to me. Anyway, it's certainly food for thought for me as far as how much K's decisions are affecting me and being a big pain in ways that I'm sure she never intended.

Booze: I got nothin here. I had a really good Cosmo this past weekend and I was planning on going to a trendy bar this coming weekend, but plans have since changed.

Bed: *sigh* Okay, I'll admit it. This one is a stretch used for writing purposes and has nothing to do with sexual exploits (There's a whole other category for that one.) Instead, I'm referring to the fact that just about every email in my inbox that doesn't say Re:shower says Re:apartment. Since K is getting married, she is also moving out, and we need to find someone to take her room. For September. We spent most of the past weekend showing her bedroom to people (aha, there's where bed comes in, for those of you who were still looking) and we may be continuing to do so on later this weekend/next week. It's frustrating in that I would like the whole thing settled, but it's also a little annoying that the timing last weekend worked out so that we pretty much just had to hang around the whole time-people weren't coming one right after the other, but they were spaced just enough to make it hard to fit anything else in the day. I'm really looking forward to having this one taken care of.

Hmmm...is there one more? Oh, right-boys. To make a long story short, they confuse me to no end. I must have missed the day where they handed out the manual. The good news, I suppose, is that I currently have a large group of male friends who I adore hanging out with and who are generally very attractive. The bad news is that one particular member of this group, who we will call "Marathon Man" for the purposes of this discussion thanks to the fact that he has runs marathons, emails and calls me often and wants to hang out a lot (takes me out to dinner often...but he seems to not really have noticed that I'm a girl. Very frustrating-but I suppose it could be worse right-we have a lot of fun together and he is certainly easy to look at. Ah well...I suppose I'll work out the boys issue eventually.

posted by Immunegirl @ 5:09 PM